It’s crucial to get the first kiss out of the way quickly if you want to build instant attraction. Generally, you won’t sleep with a girl the same night you first kiss her—unless that kiss happens right when you meet. If the kiss comes at the end of the first date, the momentum fades and the hookup often gets delayed until later. But when it happens early, the spark ignites right away, creating natural chemistry that can lead to something more that same night.

I rarely bother getting a number from a girl unless I’m sure I can make a move early on. If I can’t get close enough for at least an attempted kiss, that means an extra two dates before anything happens. And let’s be honest, only a small percentage of women are genuinely enjoyable to spend hours with more than once. Going for the kiss right away filters out indecisive girls, saves precious time, and helps you invest effort only where mutual attraction truly exists.

Even trying for a kiss when I don’t expect it to work always sends the right signal. When she notices me leaning in and hesitates, no problem—now she knows what I’m about. She senses that I’m bold, intentional, and unwilling to play endless guessing games. If she chooses to see me again, she’s already accepted that kind of confident energy. It sets a rhythm for the interaction—a natural understanding that keeps curiosity alive and makes escalation smoother later on.

In dating, speed is everything because hesitation kills momentum fast. The longer you wait to act, the more reality intrudes—texts, distractions, second thoughts, or some new guy appearing in her world. Acting quickly keeps your connection vivid and exciting. Once intimacy happens, the tension breaks and things flow naturally. You got what you wanted, the mystery remains charming, and you can enjoy the ride or move forward to whatever adventure comes next.